So I have wanted to be a Mom since I was 10..... Was getting worried in my late twenties since my biological clock had been ticking for 18 years or so and I kept meeting/dating Mr Wrongs... Then I met the most beautiful man I have ever seen in my life. I was totally knocked off my feet when I saw him. He was like no other I had ever dated, talked to or kissed before. He was gorgeous and kind I never knew those attributes could go hand in hand but it was a beautiful surprise. We dated, fell in love, kissed ridiculously like it was the first time every time then got married.. It was great.. We had our first child 2 months before our 1st wedding anniversary... You can bet people were getting out their calculators on that one... It was nothing more than mapping out an ovulation chart, taking my basal temp 987 times a day and then stocking up on pregnancy test.. In short... she was planned... Then came our second beautiful miracle precisely one month after our first was born was two years old.. We were so excited about the closeness and age and hoped that they would grow to be close.. Well obviously that worked out because they couldn't' be closer unless they were born the same day. Then Our 3rd child/miracle came ... yes, 3 children in less than 4 years of marriage.
I was lucky enough that I married someone with not only good looks and kindness but a natural ability to field the unexpected and rise to the occasion.. He is a great dad. It doesn't matter how crazy/loud /unpredictable our life gets he, my husband is either singing his heart out daily or dancing around the house.. So again in short.. we are really happy with all of these children and ..... Don't fall over but we want to do it again...... Yes, Again!
So now you have the history here's where the difficult part comes in the part that I have a really hard time understanding day in and day out... Why are people so comfortable commenting on our lives and our choice to have 3 children so closely together? We are very fortunate our children are very cute and people seem to stop and want to talk to them or look at them but there is always .... always a comment like " Oh My you have your hands full." or "Was he an oops baby?" , " You're Crazy", "How do you do it I would loose my mind." And I usually have to give mouth to mouth resuscitation when I tell them we would like a 4th child in a year or so. In an effort to spread sunshine throughout the world when I bump into these negative Nelly's I usually defend our choice in a few of the following ways........ " I am having the time of my life." It's not hard it's a privilege, "They are the best thing that has ever happen to me." After that most people don't' know what to say. I have an idea Negative Nelly........... how about while you're asking me if I'm crazy and in your confused state that someone is actually walking with three beautiful, clean and well mannered kids... why not offer to get the door for us??? How about smile and say "well isn't that nice that you have such a nice family." I don't know why people have to greet our amazing success with "the deer in the headlights look?" We're real, we're great and did you check out that good looking husband of mine... wow am I lucky!!!!!!
There are some overachievers out there that aren't getting their PhD. or wowing wall street but they are raising , happy, healthy, clean, smart children and LOVING every minute of it.
Peace out Negative Nellies
